Maximum Gratitude, Minimal Stuff

Living at full capacity is exhausting, and it makes us less effective.  When a phone or computer gets close to its limits, it may start acting strangely.  Apps may close without notice, crashes are more frequent, the battery drains more quickly. We are the same.  When we're overloaded and overwhelmed, our energy is drained.  We have less patience and flexibility.  We're so bogged down by what we've accumulated in the past that we have no heart for what comes next. A simple life is not seeing how little we can get by with, but how efficiently we can put first things first.  Victoria Moran Here's the answer When we let ourselves get frazzled and distracted by too much stuff and busyness, we're left with less energy to cope, let alone find peace in adversity.  But if we choose to live with less clutter, busyness, debt, and stress, something amazing happens.  While before we could barely keep up, now we have the capacity to focus and pay attention....

You probably make sure you get enough of Vitamins A, B, C, D, E, and the rest, but have you heard about Vitamin N?  No?  Well, let me explain its importance. The term "Vitamin N" was coined by Richard Louv, author of Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder and Vitamin N: The Essential Guide to a Nature-Rich Life .*  But since then, Vitamin N has begun to be prescribed by doctors, psychologists, and other health counselors. * This blog is reader-supported.  If you buy through my links, I may earn a small commission. We need these benefits. A growing body of scientific research indicates that time spent in nature  relieves anxiety and depression lowers blood pressure, heart rate, and cholesterol levels boosts the immune system (especially the activity of natural killer cells which fight cancer) promotes faster healing from injury or trauma reduces symptoms of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder improves social bonding...

During the coronavirus pandemic, social media use has increased significantly, according to new data from a Nielsen study.  While social distancing, we are immersing ourselves in social media as a safe way to connect with others. And this might be okay, if we control our need for external validation. Measured by others When I check and recheck the metrics on my blog to see how many page views and subscribers I have, that can be a search for information, or it can be an unhealthy need for external validation.  When I start to doubt my abilities as a writer, or to doubt the value of my message, based on how broad my readership is or on how many people choose to comment, I start losing my sense of motivation and direction. And it's okay to be excited when one of my articles is published on No Sidebar , but I shouldn't let that rush of serotonin become something I need in order to keep writing every day.  If I'm starting to find self-worth in the opinions of people I've...

As a singer, choir director, and music educator, my career role in society has always been deemed non-essential .  With the current emphasis on STEM-based education* and the centrality of organized sports, the arts are always vulnerable to budget cuts, even at the university level. However, the arts require focus and discipline.  They have been proven to develop critical thinking and creative problem-solving, important skills for anyone who wants to become innovative, adaptive, and resilient.  And arts such as drama, dance, opera, and performance in choirs, bands, and orchestras require a cooperative mindset, the ability to collaborate and bring out the best in each individual in order to meet a common goal. I'd say those qualities are essential to our future on this planet. We're all essential to someone. Perhaps we don't intend to label and characterize jobs and people as "essential" or "non-essential," but we have done so in our response to COVID-19....

Do you shop when you need to feel better?  When you've had a hard day at work, when a loved one has disappointed you, when you're bored or tired?  Shopping seems like a pick-me-up, and a new shirt or pair of earrings might make you feel better, at least for a few minutes.  But when that new thing isn't new anymore, or when the credit card bill arrives, or when you stand in front of your packed closet trying to decide what to wear, you might not feel so good then. And sometimes we just feel dissatisfied, we may not even know why.  We just know we want a change, and that restlessness pushes us toward the mall or the online store, toward travel, even toward a new job or a new partner. I didn't know what I wanted out of life, so I'd buy a new phone or pair of shoes. Courtney Carver Can you buy happiness? Marketers want us to believe that what they're offering can make our lives better.  Happiness is just a purchase away!  And you might go that route for a while...

Contentment is essential to a happy life. Contentment allows you to be fully present for your life, ready to find value in the here and now. But contentment is impossible when you continually hunger for more.  Advertising, social media comparisons, and awareness of the Joneses keep you longing for whatever the next purchase promises to provide.  Even a bucket list of desired experiences can keep you from fully savoring the current event, since it's only one in a long line. Gratitude and contentment go together. Contentment only comes when you realize the blessings you already possess, and when you appreciate the opportunities and experiences you've already enjoyed. Ambition can push us toward achievement, but unbridled desire eventually makes us unhappy.  It's a hunger that is never satisfied.  Achievements don't bring contentment , because the next hill is always there to be conquered. Wise people from all eras and cultures have warned us about this. Chinese sage La...

A recent  Twitter survey  asked "What do you most look forward to doing when shelter-in-place guidelines are lifted?" Does it surprise you to know that almost no one answered "Go shopping"?  Instead, t he most common answers were:  hang out with friends  visit family members take my family out for dinner go to a concert go to the library use our city parks hit the gym Surprising... or not? Amazingly, we seem to have learned that shopping for new stuff isn't something we've been missing during the COVID-19 quarantine.  Sure, we've bought food, and cleaning supplies, and toilet paper.  Maybe we've downloaded some movies or books, or ordered some hobby supplies online so we could spend our free time creating something. But when it comes to quality of life, it turns out that shopping for clothes, furniture, electronics, and cars is not essential.  Accumulating more physical stuff doesn't really matter all that much. What we're really longing for ...

My voice teacher (I trained to be an opera singer) loved to say it:  Less is more .  That always annoyed me, until I finally figured out at least some of what she meant. I have always had a powerful voice, but when I internalized some of that power – when I sang less – I had more focus, more breath, more resonance, and more color in my voice.  When I stopped pushing, my voice was more free, more agile, I had more control and more dynamic range.  I could still be powerful, but I could also use the power of an intense pianissimo . How does this work in other areas of life? If I own less, each item I own needs to be more useful, more suitable to my needs and wants. If I own a 33-item wardrobe ,* each piece needs to coordinate with several other pieces.  Each item needs to be of high quality.  Each item needs to fit and flatter.  There isn't room for something that isn't well made, doesn't go with anything else, or doesn't make me feel good when I'm weari...

I hope you've enjoyed this series and found tips to help your simplify your life.  If you happened to miss Part 6, go  here . I realize that these final suggestions are not for everyone, but if you've considered or implemented the previous ideas, you might be ready to go a bit deeper. Part 7 – Black Belt Simplicity 88.  Live smaller. A smaller home generally costs less, uses less energy, and takes less effort to clean and maintain.  How much space do you really need? Related article:  Rethink the American Dream 89.  Try a Buy Nothing experiment. Be an anti-consumer!  For 30 days, 90 days, or even a year, buy nothing except necessities:  food, toiletries, cleaning and maintenance supplies, medications, replacements for things that break or tear.  If you must buy a gift for someone, make it consumable (flowers, food, or concert tickets, for example), donate to their favorite charity, or pass along something of value that you own (such ...

A change in mindset can bring about a desire to simplify, but simplifying can in turn change your mindset.  These changes will bring more serenity and satisfaction every day.  (If you missed Part 5,  here it is .) Part 6 – Mindset 76.  Be present. Don't pine for the past or fret about the future.  Today is all you have.  Be here now . 77.  Be open. We live in an era of polarization, because we so often believe there's only one way to look at an issue.  Be willing to consider ideas and viewpoints that differ from your own. 78.  Be true to yourself. Keep an open mind, but don't be afraid to listen to your own intuition and moral compass.  Don't feel obligated to live according to others' expectations. 79.  Offer grace. You don't know the details of others' circumstances, and you have no idea how well you'd react to their situations.  Try to see the good in other people; don't be too quick to condemn. 80.  Of...