Put Your Blinders On So You Can Run Your Own Race

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Clutter and overwhelm may strongly impact your life today, but clutter doesn't need to define or limit you.  It doesn't need to have a say in your life going forward.


You can change that picture.


the road ahead


Here's what we're up against.


Watch TV for just two hours, or read one lifestyle magazine, and you'll understand the messages our culture throws at you all day, every day, from so many directions.  These messages say you need to:

  • look a certain way
  • dress a certain way
  • drive a certain kind of car
  • live in a certain kind of house
  • have a partner who looks a certain way
  • travel exotically
  • buy your kids all they want so they're popular and cool
  • eat out all the time (a lot of it crappy food)
  • drink with the beautiful people
  • work out like an Olympian... 
  • so you can look a certain way!

It seems that the Instagram life is what everyone has.  The fashion and home design bloggers, the fitness gurus, the remarkable home chefs, and all of our friends' amazing vacations, accomplishments, and parties are there for us to compare ourselves to.  It's no wonder we feel jealous and "less than" when it comes to being ourselves and living our own lives – the lives we're missing because we're too busy scrolling.


It's no wonder you start feeling that if you had that body, that outfit, those shoes, that hairstyle, or that house, car, job, partner, or kid, your life would be Instagram-perfect too!  You devalue what you have because everything you're looking at seems so much better.


You know what you're missing?  The whole story.  You don't know what else may be going on in those perfect-looking Instagram lives.  They might be happy, good lives.  Or they might be hiding a lot of

  • debt
  • stress
  • perfectionism
  • anxiety
  • shopping addiction
  • greed
  • entitlement
  • dissatisfaction
  • shallowness
  • relationship problems
  • insecurity
  • exhaustion




Just start, even if you can't see the end.


Have you ever seen a racehorse in training?  You'll notice they have blinders attached to their bridles that prevent them from seeing beside or behind themselves.  This is so they don't get distracted or spooked by what's going on around them.  They can stay focused on themselves and their own race – their next step forward.


You need your own set of blinders so you can:

  • minimize the time you spend looking at other people's lives (including friends, acquaintances, and celebrities)
  • focus on your own choices and goals
  • remind yourself that life is a work in progress
  • accept where you are now and acknowledge that you have the power to change if you want to
  • expose yourself to people who have far less than you do
  • take the first step to a freer life, and then the next, and the next.

Minimalism isn't a one-size-fits-all blueprint.  It doesn't look the same for everyone, because minimalism is all about discovering the people, activities, and things that have value for you, and minimizing the things that take time, money, and energy away from what you value.


I can't write a prescription or step-by-step road map for your minimalist journey.  I can give you ideas, suggestions, and challenges to help you question, test, and reveal what minimalism looks like for you and your family in your current situation and time of life.  I can try to inspire you on your way.


With your blinders on, you can keep coming back to what works for you:

  • the level of clutter you feel comfortable with
  • the level of busyness you want to handle
  • the level of free time you need
  • the lifestyle that supports your values and your best possible level of choice, freedom, and satisfaction.




Don't focus on the mountain.


Don't let yourself feel overwhelmed by the size of your piles, or the many-years-untouched basement, or the closet you fear to open because it might all fall out and bury you.  Don't focus on the mountain, because it will freeze you up and make you feel too defeated to begin.


Lay aside the outcome and the list of steps to get there, and do something that energizes you right now.  Taking action builds your confidence, and many small actions add up to big change.


Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

Martin Luther King, Jr.





Updated February 2023

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  1. UnknownNovember 16, 2019 at 2:38 PM

    Hi Karen, Just to let you know I love reading your blogs and always look forward to it. I havent got your books yet but I hope to within the next month on kindle. Thanks for writing...Crystal

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    1. Karen TrefzgerNovember 16, 2019 at 11:15 PM

      Hi Crystal, and thank you for your kind words! I'm enjoying the thinking, research, and writing that goes into creating my posts, but it's great to know they are helpful to readers as well.
      Enjoy beautiful autumn!

      Best wishes,
      Karen

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