A young couple I know went into debt preparing a designer nursery for their first child. At a baby shower for this young mama-to-be, gifts included dozens of cute but fussy newborn-size outfits (too many to wear before they were all outgrown), miniature patent leather shoes, two baby monitors, a white noise machine, a wipe warmer, and an elegant pram-style stroller that was very heavy to lift and probably too large to fit into the trunk of a car.
Family and friends were eager to welcome the new baby and wanted to show their love by giving gifts. But the cute gadgets and clothes, though fun to shop for and to give, weren't really going to meet the baby's needs. Expensive clutter had been given in place of useful necessities, which would still need to be purchased.
What a minimalist baby needs
Giving birth and caring for a newborn are wonderful but stressful activities. Why add debt and clutter to sleep deprivation and first-time-parent anxiety?
Obviously, a baby needs some stuff. But there's a lot of silly spending going on, and the idea that babies need tons of gear is a myth perpetuated by our hyper-consumerist culture. You'll gain peace and freedom with minimalism.
1. Car seat
You must have one correctly installed in order to take your baby home from the hospital. Check the Consumer Reports buying guide for the best information, and buy new.
2. Crib
A crib provides a safe place for baby to sleep independently. Look for a good used crib, but buy a new mattress. Four sets of bedding (waterproof pad, fitted sheet, and lightweight blanket) will insure that he always has a warm, clean place to sleep.
3. Baby wrap or stroller
"Wearing" your baby in a sling has many benefits, but I found it difficult as I am a large woman and I have sciatica. So I bought a good used stroller which enabled me to take longer walks and to run errands with my baby.
4. Diapers
If you choose cloth diapers, you'll need a diaper pail to store dirty items until wash day. If you opt for disposables, you'll want an odor lock trash can with a step pedal for used diapers. Either way, reusable cloth wipes are a great substitute for commercial baby wipes.
5. Clothes
A baby grows quickly, making a large wardrobe unnecessary. You'll probably receive plenty of cute "photo op" outfits as gifts, but for normal use, 10-12 onesies or sleepers are ample. An infant doesn't need shoes, but use socks or booties in cold weather. Wrap her warmly in a small blanket with a knit cap on her head.
A dozen flannel receiving blankets can function as swaddling, burp cloths, nursing covers, car window shades, towels, bibs, or a clean surface for baby to lay upon.
Once the baby can roll over and sit up, he'll need a hooded jacket appropriate to the weather. And once he's walking, shoes with Velcro closures are the most practical. If necessary, provide insulated and/or waterproof boots.
6. Storage
A backpack-style diaper bag leaves hands free, and a neutral color can be toted by Mom or Dad. It should include a wipeable, fold-up changing pad. At home, a second-hand chest of drawers can store clothes and other items.
7. Food
If you're working and plan to breast feed, you'll need a pump. With half a dozen bottles, you only need to wash them once a day. Once your child graduates to sippy cups, two or three should be adequate (just rinse and reuse, then wash in the evening). The same goes for child-size dishes or eating utensils – two or three sets will be plenty.
Your six-month-old doesn't need commercial baby food. Instead, try:
- mashed sweet potato, banana, or avocado
- regular unsweetened applesauce
- pureed peas or green beans (Use your regular blender – you don't need a baby food processor.)
- pureed strawberries
- mashed hard-boiled egg yolks thinned with a little formula (Don't add salt.)
- natural peanut-only peanut butter thinned with formula
- cooked oatmeal
- cooked pasta (especially something easy to pick up, like spirals or rigatoni)
- mashed cooked lentils
- original (unsweetened) Cheerios
8. High chair
Once your child can sit up and eat solid food, she'll need a chair that's sturdy and easy to clean.
9. Hygiene and health items
Many people use a baby bathtub, but the kitchen sink works fine, and will save your back. Most days, baby only needs a sponge bath anyway. You'll also want:
- unscented baby-safe hair/body wash
- diaper rash cream
- baby nail clippers
- nasal aspirator
- digital thermometer
- infant Tylenol (acetaminophen/paracetamol)
10. Toys and books
Babies don't really need toys. My infant grandson coos and kicks when the ceiling fan is on! Older babies are happy with cooking spoons and mixing bowls, boxes, cardboard tubes, or a silky piece of fabric. Toddlers enjoy an old purse with snaps and zippers, a pair of sunglasses, or a fort made of chairs and blankets.
My point is not that we shouldn't buy toys, but that it's very
easy for kids to have too many. Talk to your baby, cuddle her, sing to her, tickle her, play peekaboo, hold her up so she can see herself in a mirror. A lightweight
rattle or
taggie* will interest her and give her something to chew on.
For toddlers, building blocks or Lego
Duplos,
toy dishes, a bouncy ball, pull-back cars,
animal figures, dress-up accessories, and dolls are appropriate toys. Keep toys minimal and non-electronic so your kids can play creatively. Spend time on the play structures in your local park, and visit the library with its treasure-trove of books, free to browse or borrow.
* This blog is reader-supported. If you buy through my links, I may earn a small commission.
11. Room décor
I'm joking; babies don't need décor! But most parents want to make the nursery cheerful and pretty.
Paint is a simple way to change a room. Choose
zero-VOC paint for all four walls or even just the ceiling. Crib sheets, window curtains, or an area rug can contrast or coordinate.
A hand-me-down rocking chair is perfect for nursing, reading, and cuddling. Add a seat cushion and a lumbar pillow, and hang a wall lamp.
The nest is ready!
Updated January 2023
thanks for the information and posts
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Hi Derek, glad the information was useful.
DeleteI considered adding a baby monitor to the list, but decided that (in my opinion) it's not a need. I never used one -- I could hear my babies anywhere in the house. If someone has a very large house, or a two-story home with the baby sleeping upstairs while you're downstairs, then I agree that a baby monitor would be useful.
Thanks for the comment!
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ReplyDeleteHi Kevin. I don't recommend a baby monitor unless your house is very large and your baby sleeps very far away from you (see my comment from 28 Aug 2019, above). Otherwise, I think it's just one more unnecessary, cluttery thing that parenting magazines and manufacturers have convinced us we need.
DeleteHi Karen, the article was very much informative. I think giving a toy to a baby would be helpful for him/her. The baby will learn and grow wiser. What do you think?
ReplyDeleteHi Nick. I talk about baby toys in #10 above. Babies can learn by manipulating and interacting with a toy, but they learn more from interacting with loving humans!
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