Maximum Gratitude, Minimal Stuff

Your home should be the antidote to stress, not the cause of it. Peter Walsh When you go home after a long day at work, school, or doing errands, what are you longing for?  Aren't you hoping to rest, relax, and recuperate from the stresses of the day?  But what if your home is actually draining your energy?  That could be the case, and you might not even be aware of it. Here are the problems you might have, and how to fix them. 6 ways your home might be increasing your fatigue 1.  Your lighting is messing with your body clock. Light that is too bright or harsh can confuse your body's internal clock, which makes it hard to relax. Here's the fix:   Choose warm-toned LED bulbs, and install dimmer switches to use in the evening.  Better yet, turn off overhead lights after sunset, and use floor and table lamps to create pools of soft light at different heights.  For an intimate glow, burn a candle or two.* Your home will feel cozier, and your brain will na...

My six-year-old grandson (all three of my grandsons, really) often teaches me things I don't know.  Sometimes it's a bit of information about the solar system.  Other times, it's an arcane detail about Minecraft .  When Damien visited last month, he reminded me of an important skill.  I was fixing his favorite lunch (tuna on sourdough), and I asked him if he also wanted some strawberries.  "No, thank you, Grandma," he said.  No drama, no whining, no apologies or excuses.  Just "No, thank you." So straightforward He didn't say, "Sorry, I'm just not in the mood for strawberries today.  I hope that's okay."  He didn't say, "I don't really want strawberries, but if you want me to have them, I guess I will."  He didn't say, "I'm not sure.  Let me get back to you later about that." Regardless of the nutritional value of strawberries, or whether you think he should eat what he's given without discuss...

I'm so thankful autumn has arrived!  It's still hot here in the Sacramento Valley, and will be for at least a few more weeks, but I can tell that fall is here.  The sun is less glaring.  The rice fields are turning gold, and some are being harvested.  I've heard arriving migratory geese calling to each other just after sunrise and sunset. Now's the perfect time for a reset.  As nature begins to slow, so can we.  Even as school enters full swing and all of the retailers gear up for the Holiday Shopping Season, we can still take time to pay attention and savor the good things around us. First... make time for gratitude. If you haven't yet established a gratitude practice, I encourage you to do so now.  Instead of getting caught up in busyness and perfunctorily going through the motions of gratitude for a few minutes on Thanksgiving Day, why don't we make this fall the Season of Thanksgiving?  I think it will change the way we look at everything. Let...

I admit it – I'm pretty ignorant.  That's by choice. I don't mean that I'm without knowledge.  I have some education, and I like to learn new things.  But I don't try to keep up with every detail of world events.  I do my best to avoid the constant roar of politics. And sometimes I feel a little guilty about that.  But then I look at the people who pay more attention to those things than I do, and I see how upset it makes them.  How angry.  How they feel the need to put up walls between themselves and others. My husband stays more informed than I do.  He feels duty-bound.  Yet in the past couple of years, it's gotten so he doesn't sleep very well.  His blood pressure has become a problem.  Maybe his age is to blame, and maybe it isn't.  But he has a harder time staying hopeful than he used to. Maybe we already know enough. You see, I think that what I know about the state of the world is plenty. I know that bad things happen ev...

In our culture, bigger is always better.  "Go big or go home," am I right?  If a little is good, more must be desirable.  This applies to our meals, our vehicles, our closets, and to the screens we stream The Diplomat on. And for many, a big house is the ultimate dream.  TV, movies, and even family and friends send the message that a big, beautiful house means a big, beautiful life. Is a mansion really the path to comfort and happiness, or have we just accepted this idea without question?  What if we dared to think differently?  Is it possible that a smaller space has unexpected benefits? Let's get practical. It's easy to see that owning a larger home doesn't just mean more square footage.  A big house means a bigger mortgage, higher property taxes and insurance costs, larger utility bills, and more maintenance.  There are usually more toilets to clean and bigger lawns to mow.  And it takes more furniture to fill it, which probably means mor...

Companies like The Container Store and California Closets exist to help us corral all of our stuff, streamline our spaces, and make life simpler and prettier.  It's easy to look at their websites or check out organizing solutions at the local Home Depot and come to the conclusion that this is the way to get life under control.  Those specially-designed shelves, bins, and labels will create homes for every belonging, magically bringing order and peace. But organizing is a temporary solution.  We can organize everything beautifully, shut the door on our thousands of possessions, and wind up needing to reorganize again tomorrow.  After all, those perfect arrangements need to be maintained, and when you add more (as most of us do), you'll have to fit it in somehow. Organizing is a Band-Aid, when what we need is surgery. Minimizing is the solution that lasts.  Instead of giving up your space, your time, and your attention (not to mention your money) to excess possess...